Be Selfish

Yes, you're looking at the title, it wasn't a mistake.

You're probably asking why I'd say this. I mean, come on, who would urge someone to be selfish?

Well, let me clarify what I mean.

Popular opinion is, we should be unselfish. Selfless means, placing the needs of others before ours.

Every religion says this same thing.

The main questions are,

What do I mean by being selfish?

Why should I be selfish?

When should I be selfish?

How can I be selfish?

I'm proposing these are some questions in your thoughts. Let's get into answering them.

What does it mean to be selfish?

The Dictionary describes a selfish person as, "one who is preoccupied excessively or entirely with oneself without consideration for others".

This individual sounds pretty terrible. Their acts might be directly or indirectly influencing others.

Truth is, there's this one area you should be entirely selfish about, it's your mental stability.

Why should I be selfish?

At times, our mental stability might be damaged by a variety of situations.

I'm especially talking about the human component here.

We've all experienced relationships that are destructive to our mental stability.

It might be a friendship or an intimate connection.

Whichever one, it still impacts our mental wellness.

This might greatly alter our everyday living. Our state of mind influences our productivity. Hence, clinging to these destructive relationships might bring out the worst in us over time.

This might have several emotional and general impacts.

When should I be selfish?

You should be selfish when you begin to smell toxicity from any form of connection. It might be a purposeful or unintended maneuver.

For sanity's sake, you should be selfish.

You certainly don't want to watch yourself not doing properly.

How can I be selfish?

Being selfish may be tiring since toxicity can emanate from a close connection.

You don't necessarily have to cut off the individual altogether yet.

You may give them room for a bit.

You need that time to take care of yourself.

You're being selfish here since you may undoubtedly harm the individual with the distance, particularly if it's an intimate relationship.

Truth is, you have to be sound to be of benefit to anybody genuinely.

You only have to think about yourself at that point.

During this time, do any activity that makes you joyful.

For me, it's weightlifting. For you, It could be a person or a self-help podcast, whatever essentially works for you. it can be anything.

No matter what it is, just concentrate on it. The idea is to get your mind off and safeguard your tranquility.

When you're all okay, you can speak about the toxic circumstance. They might be willing to work on it. If they don't want to chat then you may shut them off.

You're probably saying, "easier said than done". My previous article may be of help to give you a heads-up.

Honestly, your mental health is more essential than that connection, whether intimate or not. The reality is, your sole job is you.

You can't aid anyone or any scenario with exhausted mental health. Now, look at it from this angle.

You'll realize you're helping yourself and every other person around you by making sure your mental health is healthy. It's okay to be selfish about your mental health.